I’m Lindsey- mom of twin “fournagers,” teacher, wife, marathoner, mistake maker, and lover of wine.
As a mom and a woman, I’ve struggled with finding “balance” with everything and this forum is a space to share struggles and the lessons that come from them.
My husband, Justin and I, have been happily married for 7 years, but over the last 5 years have been tested in many ways.
I struggled with infertility due to PCOS, but, luckily, was able to get pregnant after one round of IUI with twin girls!
But, even though getting pregnant was fairly easy (from a infertility standpoint), my pregnancy was not. At 18 weeks, my cervix began to shorten. At 20 weeks, I went into labor. And after 7 weeks of hospital bed rest, my girls were born via emergency C-Section at 27 weeks, 5 days.
But, like all things, the story doesn’t end there! The day before we left our 72 day stint in the NICU, we found out our daughter Evie, was born with a genetic condition that caused her to have profound bilateral hearing loss (a.k.a. she was deaf). After worrying about EVERYTHING in the NICU except ears, our world was turned upside down!
Evie has cochlear implants and is doing amazingly well, but it’s been a long road to get there- multiple surgeries, lots of therapy, and lots of people who walked us through every step.
In the midst of all of this though, I was trying to sustain my marriage, build my career, and run marathons. Which, of course, all blew up in my face. I’ve struggled with “balance” in every way, shape, and form. When I focus on my running, I feel guilty about the time it takes away from my kids. When I focus on my career, I feel like I’m being a crappy mom and spouse. And, when I feel like I’m rocking the mom thing, I know I’m dropping the ball at work.
The thing is, as someone who has struggled with perfectionism her entire life, learning to let go and surrender has been the hardest lesson I’ve had to learn. Hence, why I call myself a “Type B” mama. I can’t do everything and be all things to all people, but I want to be!
My Type B philosophy:
- You can’t pour from an empty cup, taking care of yourself FIRST is sometimes needed to be the best for others.
- Life can be beautiful and funny and sad all at the same time.
- Pinterest can take a hike.
- Women today have MORE expectations than ever before, yet we are expected to fill the same role we did 50 years ago.
- Balance doesn’t exist and that’s okay.
- Your kids will be fine as long as they know they’re loved.
- No judgement- we’re all doing our best.
- Love wins, every time. If we loved on each other more instead of compared ourselves or judged others, we could do so much more.
I’m so glad you’re here and cannot wait to share this journey with you!